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beyond
03-15-2008, 05:46 PM
Being lied to by someone you love and felt you could trust is very painful and frustrating. You love your partner, so you find yourself forgiving his/her lies the first time, perhaps the second and third time as well, before you realize you are just involved with a liar. However, because you feel strongly for this person, it is not easy for you to break away, even though you know that is probably what is best for you. You hang on, with hope that things will change and he will not lie to you anymore. You justify staying with him by telling yourself that he is a good person and deep down you know he loves you- and that your relationship is wonderful and perfect- except when he lies.

What you need to ask yourself when this happens is: Do you consider a wonderful relationship one in which your partner lies to you? Is being lied to by a liar your idea of love and respect? When you are emotionally involved with someone, it is not always easy to ask and answer these logical questions. You often will make excuses for a liar, just to make yourself feel better about staying with someone who does not truly respect you. When your partner lies to you, it is because he does not respect you and is not as committed to the relationship as you would like to believe. Of course, there are different kinds of lies- little ones and big ones, but a lie is still a lie, no matter the size or reason for the lie. Look at it like this: if your partner can lie so easily over little things that are unnecessary to lie about, then you can be pretty sure that he/she will lie to you about bigger things that will really matter and damage the relationship.

What you need to ask yourself when this happens is: Do you consider a wonderful relationship one in which your partner lies to you? Is being lied to by a liar your idea of love and respect? When you are emotionally involved with someone, it is not always easy to ask and answer these logical questions. You often will make excuses for a liar, just to make yourself feel better about staying with someone who does not truly respect you. When your partner lies to you, it is because he does not respect you and is not as committed to the relationship as you would like to believe. Of course, there are different kinds of lies- little ones and big ones, but a lie is still a lie, no matter the size or reason for the lie. Look at it like this: if your partner can lie so easily over little things that are unnecessary to lie about, then you can be pretty sure that he/she will lie to you about bigger things that will really matter and damage the relationship.

Hamadash
03-15-2008, 06:32 PM
you're absolutely correct partner... once a liar is always a liar,, once you taste it you've always want it... :D:D

agta
03-15-2008, 07:26 PM
All men (generic to include male and female) are liars....The best that we can do is to hope and pray to God that Satan would not be able to destroy the bond that Love has built between us and our love ones....

Jeff
03-25-2008, 09:06 AM
It doesnt mean that once we committed mistake like lying, you turn yourself into hopeless creature. No, I dont believed that. Please remember that all of our sins were committed ourselves through our minds. How about if we reverse it, how about if we think to change and make good, would it be impossible? What your mind think is what you are specially if you have the faith that Jesus can change us, nothing is impossible under the heat of the sun bro and sis... While we are still alive we have the chance to renew our lives from being a liar to righteous....

4everblue
10-26-2009, 12:09 PM
once a liar always a liar?
hmmm not all ...everybody deserves to have another chance..a chance to correct what mistake he/she made, not a chance to make another mistake/lies.

Making lies more often would be another story, you have to give yourself a chance to be happy and away from pain.

Jeff
10-28-2009, 12:33 PM
Even the disciples of Jesus lied.

watje
11-17-2009, 02:31 AM
it depence on what lie. if it is a constructal lie, you will always lie, but even when you not lie anymore, other people will never believe you anymore.
only the truth is easy to remember.
the diciples of god??? is only believe, is nothing.